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Recharge Your Self-Confidence by Saying Yes to the Light of Your Soul

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt I have been speaking about self-confidence for multiple weeks on this workshop because it is essential any time, and especially so in difficult times. No one knows the future. But if we shrink into fear in the face of it and struggle with doubt and hesitation as a result, everyone loses, especially ourselves. Self-confidence not only gives us the courage to move forward and naturally support others to do the same, but it helps us tap into our truest nature, beyond any limiting beliefs. So what is it, and how do we cultivate it? Perhaps the first step in cultivating self-confidence is understanding what it is not. Self-confidence is not an armor to put on, nor is it a bolstering of ego to “psych yourself up”. Instead, true self-confidence is more of a surrendered allowing. This is because your true nature is just waiting to arise through you and guide your life. It is in harmony with the natural world and the cosmos. Real self-confidence is actually humble. It is the willingness to get to know your soul voice, trust your inner wisdom, and honour your connection with the universe. This is a moment-to-moment practice, one you enrich every day by giving it…

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Four Ways to Stay Confident in Challenging Times

How do we maintain self-confidence or inner peace in a world where the “like” button seems to have become a measure of our value? I recently saw an exceptional documentary called “The Social Dilemma” that shared a staggering statistic: since 2013 when smartphones became widely available, suicide in girls between the age of 10 and 14 has risen by 189%. The world is intense right now. There is a heavy energy present that I call undertow. It is as though a tide pulls at us with a hungry desire for us to get absorbed in anxiety and despair. It is everywhere, regardless of whether we use social media. However, apps and websites that cultivate a drive in us to seek attention, connection and validation outside ourselves can fuel this undertow, leaving us more miserable than ever. Feeling deeply moved by the devastating rise in suicides and self-harm, I have been working on a new song called “Undertow”, dedicated to MAPS, and have poured love into it to support whoever listens to it to stay afloat, especially in challenging times. I would also like to share the following thoughts with you that you can integrate and share right now to help stay clear from undertow. This Canadian Thanksgiving weekend, my wish for you is that you feel…

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How to Stop Giving Away Your Power and Stand Your Ground in Inner Peace

Last week, we began to explore what self-confidence really means and how we can experience it in our lives. Healthy self-confidence gives greater presence and meaning to our actions. This gift of a peaceful spirit is rooted in knowing our inherent worth and cultivated through intentional practice to stay connected with that truth. Self-confidence is like a strong and radiant container to hold our vital energies so that we are fully charged, focused and capable, while being respectful with others. If this container weakens, so does our spirit. I invited you last week to consider if there are any ways you are giving your power away. Everyone has this tendency to some extent or other. They are the places from which our self-confidence can ebb. This week, we will explore how to keep this from happening by staying rooted in who we truly are – literally standing our ground. Stand your ground. You may hear the phrase often. Sometimes it is expressed as encouragement to one who too readily gives in and passively allows others to have their way. Other times, we might speak of standing our ground when we feel shaken by adversity or attack. We may stand our ground to defend what feels like our own, to lay claim to territory and assert our…

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Being Your Most Natural Self: the Sweetness of Self-Confidence

Each of us has the potential for peak moments. With all sense of resistance, fear, and doubt dissolved, we are completely present and engaged with what is before us. We stand in our most natural self, fully alive to the now. Athletes and artists know this place when they are surrendered to their task and time dissolves, the sense of separateness is gone and all that exists is the perfection of what is. Lovers touch this place when life feels as though million-watt bulbs were just turned on and everything bloomed into technicolour. Heroes live this when they throw all caution to the wind and dive into a seemingly impossible situation, experiencing the momentary death of their ego, expanding into the realm of eternal possibility. In it is the source of true self-confidence. What is self-confidence? It is our certitude in our ability to discern or act. In self-confidence, we are no longer participating in internal conflicts such as doubt or fear. As we stand in inner peace, our actions can take on that potency that awes us in those peak moments. So how do we experience that? When my grandmother was on her deathbed, I asked her what the meaning of life was. She said to me so wisely: “It is all about being yourself.…

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How to Develop Healthy Self-Esteem and Revel in the Light You Are

There is a beautiful quote by the Sufi poet Hafiz, “I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being.” It speaks to how we strangely get caught up in negative or ungrounded ideas of ourselves and need to return to a healthy sense of self-esteem. This week, we will explore why this is key to our inner peace and how to know our inherent value. Imagine that you found your friend depressed or even crying, lamenting, “My face is covered with warts. They’re so ugly and I can’t get rid of them.” But when you look at your friend, their face is perfectly normal, with not a wart in sight. You can’t understand why they are so upset about something that is not real. No matter what you do to try to convince them that they don’t have warts all over their face, they are adamantly convinced that they do. Seems far-fetched, doesn’t it? The funny thing is, many of us are prone to this tendency in a more subtle way. When I look at people, I see their inherent luminosity and capability. Each one of us is beautiful in our own unique way. We are each magnificent, perfectly interconnected within the fabric of life.…

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A Guided Meditation Practice to Help You Feel Connected with the Love You Truly Are

Last week, we looked at the importance of self-love for inner and outer peace. How do we cultivate this essential state of heart, mind and spirit on an ongoing basis? It comes when we know that our true nature is love, and when we understand, witness, and release the ways we have been resistant to it. This takes willingness and practice. As promised, I share a guided visualization this week to help you connect with the love that you are. Try the following every day for at least a week and notice the changes in your life. Find a quiet environment where you feel safe and comfortable to go deeply within for about ten minutes. Lie on your back in a relaxed position. You can either place your feet flat on the floor with knees bent, outstretch your legs entirely, or rest your legs on a pillow if you have low back issues. Your arms are at your sides, palms open. Put a blanket over yourself for warmth if needed. You can also use a small pillow under your head if you find lying on the floor creates neck tension. Close your eyes and move your awareness inward. Breathe quietly. Feel your belly rise with each inhalation, and release as you exhale. Notice the soothing, wave-like…

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Why Loving Yourself Is the First Gift You Give to the World

If you yearn to experience a happier, more peaceful life, begin by cultivating self-love. Perhaps at first self-love may seem like a reinforcement of your ego, or perhaps you dismiss it as a basic act of “self-care” along the lines of eating enough vegetables or getting proper sleep. But self-love is a profound expression of your true nature, and when you honour it, you become the healing our world so deeply needs. Within each one of us, there is an unbroken tie to the universe, an unending tap that flows with love. But it is as though most of us are standing on the cosmic hose that is sending love our way, while we scratch our heads bewildered, wondering where all the love has gone. This leads to problems, because we are born to experience love. When we do not feel connected with love, we are prone to wanting: seeking love from people, places, and things outside of ourselves. Since wanting is based in a sense of disconnect, it leads to disconnected actions that are against Nature and ourselves. No matter how many steps we take to reduce our carbon footprint, our mental footprint on the planet remains heavy when we do not include ourselves in unconditional love. As such, for the sake of our inner…

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Your First Steps to Cultivating a Peaceful Spirit in a World of Turmoil

There is a time-honoured moment of truth in many heroes’ journeys, where they wish to roar into battle to save the day, and yet they must go inward first – because that is the only place they can find their real power to make a difference. The truth is that a peaceful spirit holds the key to restoring our global balance. It nourishes our inherent interconnection that in turn influences our every decision. When our thoughts and feelings are centered and healthy, we take healthy actions, which create a healthy world. We must quell the high carbon footprint of our agitated minds and restless spirits in order to survive. And that begins within each one of us, in this very moment. We cannot focus on external change in the world and ignore the necessary internal transformation that makes it possible. Through the spring and summer, we have been looking at how to support a peaceful mind through emotional presence. On this foundation, let’s take a look at what it means to cultivate a peaceful spirit. The power of going inward to lay the foundation of external transformation is something very close to my heart right now as I have been in the music studio completing the six albums for GEM: Global Education for MAPS. One of…

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Give Yourself the Gift of Freedom from Painful Feelings That Steal Your Inner Peace

One of the biggest obstacles to peace we can face is found in our painful emotions and the way they can pull us down when we are not willing to be present for them. Over the past several weeks, we have looked at nine particularly painful emotions and how to understand, witness, and release their turbulence in order to find ease and freedom. This week, as we prepare to move forward into the next chapter of “Finding Your Inner Peace Sanctuary”, we sum it up. Being honest and present for your emotions is key to finding your inner peace sanctuary. You may not like to see that, for example, you don’t feel happy all the time – but there is nothing gained in denying or judging your feelings. If you notice you are experiencing painful emotions, remember that if you have been following along, you know how to deal with them now. You need to practice the three steps of transformation—understand, witness, and release. You understand that they are not ultimate reality, just passing clouds that temporarily eclipse the light of the sun, which is your true, luminous nature. Then you witness your feelings just as they are without adding any story to what is. As you understand and witness, release happens automatically because you no…

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The Power to Choose a Peaceful Mind is In Your Hands

When I began this workshop in the summer of 2019, the virus responsible for COVID-19 did not yet have a name and no one knew what would happen when it jumped into human lungs. Today, our world looks very different. The way we live, work, shop, and stay healthy has changed. Even if we and those we love are not directly affected by the coronavirus, we may never experience life quite as we used to. The question is, will we give up and become cynical, despaired and discouraged, or will we be inspired to commit more deeply than ever to health at all levels, including inner peace—for our own sake and for the good of all? Both options are available to each one of us. The power is in our hands. This spring, around the same time as the lockdowns first took effect all over the world, we started a new chapter in this workshop, looking at what it means to have a peaceful mind. We each have the potential for the radiant steadiness of a calm, clear inner lake. Yet somehow, especially in times of difficulty, our minds feel more like a turbulent sea. This is because of the sorry stories that disrupt our clarity, such as the following: • “NOT GOOD ENOUGH”: To perceive…

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