Ask Parvati 31: Relationship Complications – Part 4, Letting Go Of Wounds

BY Parvati

(Continued from Transcending Anger and Low Self-Esteem)
Question: How can I heal past relationships wounds and let go to start living my life? 
My answer: Everything in life has a cycle. There are seasons for flowers and season for snow. Everything plays a part of the greater whole. There is a time in our healing process for anger and a time for grief. Then there is a time for forgiveness. Only when you have had the humility to be honest with your feelings and see your part in the situation, only when you can see yourself in the other person and cultivate understanding, will you be able to let go. Letting go happens when you feel ready. When you become tired of holding on to the anger and hurt, you will let go. The other person, the situation, nothing but yourself is holding on to the hurt and anger. No one is choosing that, other than you. You cannot blame anyone. There are no victims here. When you feel you have had enough of ultimately hurting yourself and creating the feeling of hurt, will you let go. There is no judgement in what I say. It is totally natural to feel dark, painful emotions. Everything has its place and season. You will let it go, when you choose to love yourself enough to treat yourself with the love and kindness you deseve.
You may find the blog I wrote that explores childhood wounds very helpful. It is called Be A Mother to Yourself.
(Continued tomorrow with Moving through Depression and Attracting the Love You Want)