How To Go With The Flow

BY Parvati

Image credit: Nicholas Tonnelli

Hello friends,
This week, you will have an opportunity to find out much more about living in the Positive Possibilities! A special double issue of Parvati Magazine will be published very soon! Stay tuned! In the meantime, here is a sneak preview, one of the articles from my Positive Possibilities section:
When we pause to consider for a moment the many ways in which we are attached to doing in order to feel a sense of purpose, we quickly see that we are habituated into thinking that we are the very force that gives us life. We have lost sight of the life force that flows through us to sustain us in each moment. We have forgotten that we are in essence that very flow.
Going with the flow is not passive, but an intelligent recalibration of the notion of who or what is doing. We usually think “I” – a divided sense of self – is the doer. As such, we feel compelled to take charge of this moment, which somehow we perceive as against us. Yet all the while, we are lovingly supported within a compassionate and wise whole.
For many, the notion of surrender, acceptance or “going with the flow” sound like a resignation of our will. The idea of the proverbial “throwing in the towel” to what this moment may bring can even bring up profound, even primal fears. But there is deep, contemplative wisdom in being able to choose such ease. The choice is based on understanding the nature of reality, the way in which we are vastly interconnect, never separate, always within grace.
Flow is not blind and listless, but active and awake. It is a flow-er-ing of consciousness within you as it dances effortlessly within the whole. You, your ego-self, has gotten out of the way.
This way of living is about being in service to the creative flow, a force greater than your individual ego or will. This force is not about you, but arises through you. You are witness to its unfolding. It can have a wide range of expressions, from a gentle lapping wave, to a huge tsunami.
The other day, as I was quietly enjoying my walk to the gym where I work out, my husband noticed a brawl that was taking place in the park up ahead. A group surrounded someone who was being beaten up. As soon as I noticed this, an energy arose through me that led to me running faster than I ever have, down two blocks, right into the center of the fight consisting of five men and one woman. A fierce presence, like a karate cry, arose through me as I commanded everyone to step back and break it up. This force took over, and had only one objective: disperse the violence to ensure safety for all. At no point did I engage in the angry vortex, or even physically touch anyone. The energy alone took care of all that was needed. I was just the body through which it arose. Once the bloody person was cared for and everyone safe, I walked away from the scene back to what felt more like my normal self. I hardly knew what had happened.
Flow is all about life force, which moves, dances, sustains and arises through us in each moment, when we are willing to co-create with it. But it is never about us. Any sense of self that may think it is the force doing, feeds not our collaborative synergy with the flow, but our ego and our sense of being divided from the whole. Of this, we must be careful.
Though flow has many expressions, it will always feel rooted, vital and expansive. It will always be engaged and assertive, whether it is gentle and quiet or fierce and expressive. It will never be pushy or a push-over. It is always a balanced expression of interconnection within the whole.
Contrary to what many of us habitually perceive, life is not happening “to” you. You are an active co-creator in actualizing what is. You are not an isolated island, but part of an intelligent whole. So try this contemplative meditation to help you feel more rooted, vital and expansive in your life and embrace the possibility of going with flow in each moment:
1) Find a quiet place to sit comfortably, so that you can relax without the risk of falling asleep. Allow your spine to be straight, but not rigid. Ideally, you are not leaning against pillows, a wall or the back of a chair.
2) Breathe into your belly, allowing the rhythm of the breath to bring your mind deeper into this moment, into your body, into the feeling of the here and now.
3) Scan your body from the crown of your head to your toes. Without any force or particular stressful effort, go deeper into yourself and feel the connection your body has with your seat.
4) Then feel the connection your breath has with the outside air and how it flows into your body. Breathe in, feel the air and life force feed your body/being. Breathe out, feel the ease of the release. Know that the air you breathe is also connected to all of life, all animals, all humans, all things alive.
5) Take a moment to feel that interconnection between you, life and all things. Feel the immense possibility of life itself. While remaining present to the sensations within your body and the flow of your breath, allow your sense of awareness to expand, to open to this life force that is in you, around you, everywhere. Stay rooted in your body by still feeling the ground, your breath, and include the expansive awareness you also feel. Allow yourself to open to receive this possibility in this moment, feel it in your breath and in your cells. While rest in that presence, say to yourself: “I am. I am. I am.” Feel the possibility of ease and flow, your effortless interconnection within and without.
6) Feel the ease, flow and interconnection in your whole being. Repeat it like you were feeding your cells with this lush, rich, awareness.
7) Should your mind wander on distractions, such as physical tensions, or lingering thoughts, simply notice them and bring your awareness back to your breath. Allow yourself to rest in the words “I am”. Repeat it until you feel you have had enough. Then gently open your eyes, and allow yourself to gently move back into your daily life with ease and flow.
May you live your life in the Positive Possibilities and flow in harmony with your true essence, all of nature and the universe as a whole.
Until next time, remember:
Love yourself.
Love others.
Love our world.
We are one Earth family.