How to Make Choices Based in Self-Love and Compassion

BY Parvati

Happy Earth Day! The Earth gives us so much to make this amazing life possible. I feel every day is Earth Day. That is why I am giving my all to the Marine Arctic Peace Sanctuary. This initiative to keep the entire planet cool and protect all life is about the reality of our interconnection. What each of us does affects the Arctic, and what happens in the Arctic affects us all. A healthy world is the true bottom line.
One of the greatest gifts of being on this fabulous planet is our power of free will. We can choose that which supports our joy, health, and interconnection, or that which enables disconnection and suffering. In a blog earlier this winter, I wrote about how I gave up chocolate. I would like to pick up on that thread again this week and consider the power of choice as it affects ourselves and the world around us.
When you are willing to make healthy changes, you fuel your new-found ability to make choices with the clear understanding of the power of your perceptual habits, and how you need not be limited by them. You can choose to see this moment differently. For example, when you understand that a sweet dessert you once thought delicious does not nourish you in a meaningful way, your choice becomes easier. You can discern which foods give you the nourishment your body needs for you to live a relaxed, happy and healthy life.
When you understand that choices you make in disconnection from your true nature only lead you to unhappiness, no matter how much they may seem tempting in the short term, you become lighter and more enthusiastic about the power you have to make choices. When you see with absolute clarity what you are choosing and why you are making those choices, your sense of effort in choosing lessens.
When we first wish to make healthy decisions, most of us are motivated by our own personal desire for happiness. But as we evolve spiritually, we begin to see that there is no such thing as a singular decision. Not only does everything we choose affect all moving parts in our own lives, but it affects everything within which we are a part: this living universe.
Nature as a whole is a living entity, an aspect of the universe of which we are an integral part. It is alive and evolving just as we are. Whether or not we choose to connect with it consciously, we cannot help but be in a constant state of co-creation with Nature, as we are an inherent part of her.
To me, the environmental crisis is a gift to learn to connect more deeply. It is like the call from the planet, our mother, teaching us yet again, with a mother’s patience, how we must grow up and become wiser and more compassionate. We must make choices based on understanding our interconnection. She shows us that we are all connected because when we act in a disconnected manner, life dies and so do we. What I do affects you. What you do affects me. What we all do affects the planet. We are not isolated islands but one Earth family.
As we awaken to our potent connection with Nature, we are called to implement both internal and external change. Externally, we must choose to reduce CO2 emissions, plant trees, turn off lights and electrical devices when not in use, conserve water and take shorter showers, and look for alternative transportation to cars, such as carpooling or taking public transport. We need to look at ways to reduce our consumption of things that are not readily recycled, like plastics and textiles. (Incidentally, I use reclaimed materials in my sets and costumes wherever possible. For example, the “glass dress” I created for the character Krystelle in my I Am Light music video was made from iridescent mylar that was previously used in a friend’s art project.) We need to support solutions to the global crisis, like MAPS.
Internally, we are spiritually called to realize we are part of a much bigger whole. The realization of our interconnection inspires personal responsibility and transformation. That, in turn, creates global change. When we see that each decision we make affects not just ourselves but everyone and everything on the planet, we act with more compassion. When we have more compassion, we realize the impact of our actions and we naturally want less and practice more kindness.
As stewards of the Earth, we are each called to live in harmony with ourselves, each other and our planet. As we choose the light of our Nature, we light up the world.
Wishing you a sense of rooted, vital, expansive joy and interconnection this Earth Day and always.
Love yourself.
Love others.
Love our world.
We are one Earth family.

Thank you for reading! All my music, yoga and words are dedicated to MAPS, the Marine Arctic Peace Sanctuary. MAPS is an urgently needed global intervention to protect the polar ice that keeps our planet cool and weather stable. The ice caps ensure we have the food and water we all need to survive. Please support MAPS at for the sake of all life on Earth. From my heart to yours, it literally means the world.