All posts tagged Ego

Remembering Who You Are

From my experience, the ego only exists because it sees itself as separate from life force. So when that illusion dissolves, we return to the experience of unity. In that process, we gain even greater access to interconnection, which ensures not only our survival, but our thriving.

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Willingness to Disarm the Ego

Image credit: Bob Prosser Continued from Play Small, or Rest in the Love That Always Is The ego gets high from inflations. It is as though the sweeping statements of “I am unloved” or “I am a failure” actually satisfy the ego. When the ego is inflated this way, it propels you away from the present moment. Why would you do this, when it only leaves you feeling more disconnected and unloved? You use the ego’s drama as a way to hide from something in this moment that you fear is too painful to deal with. Starting with an honest articulation of your uncomfortable feelings, as mentioned last week, helps to keep the ego from blowing them up into devastating absolutes. Such honesty brings with it the light of empowering clarity that fuels incredible personal growth and freedom. WILLINGNESS AND FREEDOM If you are truly willing to rest in the love that is here right now, you will find the courage to open and meet this moment with honesty. When you notice that your ego is triggered and starting to inflate a situation into devastating absolutes, you may wish to ask yourself, “What is so threatening or uncomfortable to my ego in this moment that I would rather blow it up than be just be present…

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Play Small, Or Rest in the Love that Already Is

Image credit: Michael Korchia (Continued from The Gold in February Blues) Happy Valentine’s! My deepest wish for you is that you rest in knowing that the love you seek already exists in the depths of your being because your true nature is love. Though we share love with others throughout our lives, only our sincere connection to the love that we are will provide us with lasting love. Amidst the chocolates and flowers, Valentine’s can amplify feelings of loneliness, rather than deepen our experience of love. Taking place in the middle of a cold, dark winter, the Hallmark holiday can exacerbate any sense of current disconnection. It is hard to know that your true nature is love and that you are loved if you feel powerless by believing that life is happening to you. So to rest in the love that already is, you need to come to a place of sincere willingness to experience the possibility of love – even if you may not see or experience it yet. This requires being open to the notion that the way you perceive may not be completely accurate. It is, after all, only a passing, limited perception, tainted by your beliefs and biases. It is not absolute. When you are attached to the passing perception that life…

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How to Succeed at Your New Year’s Resolutions, Part 1: Wanting Won’t Get You What You Want

Thank you to all those who have contacted me to help stop seismic bombing in the Arctic Ocean. So grateful! We are still looking for volunteers who can help with company research, specifically, we are looking to uncover the companies that are invested in profiting from exploiting the Arctic. If you are interested in lending a hand to this work, please contact me directly at parvati@parvati.org. We are working on building a comprehensive website for the great content I have been putting together: videos, music, words and more; as well as a site to represent our work at parvati.org. We should be seeing these live soon. In the meantime, here is some food for thought to help you start your New Year with some extra inspiration: HOW TO SUCCEED AT YOUR NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WANTING WON’T GET YOU WHAT YOU WANT Many of us want to make lasting changes in our lives. As New Year’s Day comes around, we feel excited about the possibilities it brings. With a wish for better times ahead, we write a list of ways this year will be different. But as life’s challenges return to our lives after festive gaiety, we find ourselves once again feeling stifled by the things we had hoped would be different. Despite our best efforts, it…

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Always Within Love’s Embrace

I have had the great blessing of spending this past week in Detroit with my guru from South India, Sri Mata Amritanandamayi Devi, also lovingly known as Amma or Mother. Being in the presence of a fully realized master is indescribable. One who has gone beyond the limitations of the mind cannot be understood with the intellect. But I can share some of the insights from my time with Amma, as I resume my production schedule back in Toronto – new website to launch, music videos to complete, new songs and show to produce…. As I stumble and soar, grow and evolve, release and expand each day throughout my life, I am reminded that I view life through the lens of my perceptions, which are limited and imperfect. I experience life this way because I am still attached to the temporal sense of self that is separate from the whole. Some call this conditional sense of identity “me”, while others call it the ego. I have moments of oneness, of ease and unity beyond this self that feels divided from the whole. In those moments, all simply is. I feel no grasping or pushing, but rooted, vital and expansive within a loving whole. There is no resistance, but an effulgence of possibility and love. Then something…

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The Universe Has Your Back

Healing: A Return to Wholeness In all my creative work – be it a musical composition, a text, a painting, a performance, or a video production – I start with an inspiration. That feeling leads to an idea which fuels my artistic process. I have a plan or a sense of what I want to create and do my best to honour the muse and see the vision to completion. But in the course of executing the idea, I encounter the unexpected and end up with an artistic work that usually ends up better than I had originally imagined. This is because I don’t see unexpected challenges as obstacles, but rather as opportunities. I am also not attached to my initial idea of how I think things should be. Does the seed know how it will look when it flowers? Life is a mystery unfolding. As a yogi and meditator, and as one who has gone through an extraordinary healing process after being paralyzed for four months due to a severe spinal injury, I feel a strong affinity for the phrase “I’ve got your back”. The exercises that make up the practice of Hatha yoga were designed thousands of years ago to gradually purify the subtle channels of energy that exist within our body/being. The spine…

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Healing Pain Through Love and Acceptance

LOVING MYSELF AND THE WORLD BEYOND CONDITION The choices you make right now, based on how you choose to perceive this moment, are literally creating your future. This month’s Parvati Magazine explores the theme Equilibrium. My article “Finding Balance In Relationships” looks at how our core beliefs affect how we perceive and therefore choose to interact with the world. As often is the case when I share, I get immediate opportunity to put my teachings into practice. I feel this happens because the universe is the ultimate compassionate teacher. It lovingly makes sure that I am walking the talk and serving to my utmost by presenting me with many life lessons that support my growth. This week, I had an encounter with someone through which my feelings were hurt. As I processed my experience, I discovered that some of my core beliefs needed revision. So I went within and took stock of how I choose to perceive life, asking myself if I am living in unattached truthfulness or projecting and validating my assumptions onto the world. I also went back to review my blog posts that celebrate the power of the divine feminine, a five part series written in December 2013 through January 2014. If you have not yet read them, they are pretty juicy and…

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May We All Graduate From Kindergarten

Why Most Of Our Problems Would Disappear If We Honoured Our Inner Child After marriage, people often ask the bride and groom if they will be having children. In my case as a newlywed, it would be unlikely. Not because I don’t love children. On the contrary, I love them so much that I feel I am already guardian to many. Whether or not we have children, I believe we always have at least one child to take care of: our inner child. I am not a TV watcher. I don’t even own a TV, as I far prefer spending my time actively creating art or resting in the stillness of meditation to passively watching dramas unfold on a tinsel screen. Yet, being part of the entertainment industry, I check in periodically with current TV shows to keep me up to date with passing trends. Yesterday I stumbled upon segments on YouTube from The Voice Kids, a show that holds blind auditions for children, where the coaches can only hear the voice and not see the singer. If the voice is selected, then the singer is revealed and must choose which coach he wishes to work with as he moves forward in the competition. Though any notion of childhood exploitation rests uneasily with me, I found…

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Ujjayi Pranayama and Hatha Yoga Practice: From Overheating to Effortless Effort

(Continued from last week’s post) THE PRACTICE OF UJJAYI PRANAYAMA In order to practice ujjayi, a subtle shift takes place in the movement of air-flow, which creates a flowing ocean-like sound. However, too often I have seen an attachment to using this breath create deeper tension in both the physical and energy systems of the practitioner, rather than burning up the ego’s sense of separate self-importance. Aspiring yogis may tend to “manufacture” ujjayi, which creates tension and defeats the purpose of its energetic flow. I have spent a lot of time with students and teachers in yoga sessions undoing a block that is created in the physical and energy body from this type of effortful practice. Effort of any kind requires a certain willpower. But where does this willpower come from? Does it arise from our effortless interconnection with nature? Does is come from our idea of what yoga is? Where are we trying to get to in applying it? If this moment contains all we need to fully realize the oneness of all that is, then any use of wanting to get somewhere else arises from a disconnected state that will only perpetuate more of the same. When practicing Hatha yoga of any kind, we need to cultivate witness consciousness, that is, witnessing the arising…

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Does Ujjayi Breathing Make Your Yoga Practice Victorious?

WHAT IS THE UJJAYI BREATH AND SHOULD I PRACTICE IT? In Hatha Yoga, we practice a series of physical exercises intended to purify the subtle energy channels in our body/being, so that we may one day experience a state of non-dual unity, that is, a oneness with the divine energy that pervades all things. The practice begins with mindful, physical exercises designed to open our body and free energy movement in the body/being. As our energy system awakens and clears, we may be ready to practice pranayama. The literally translation of the Sanskrit word “pranayama” is the “extension” or “drawing out” of prana, that is, of life force. It is a series of breathing exercises geared to broaden and expand our field of awareness, so that we may continue an even subtler purification of the body/being. Through my years of teaching YEM: Yoga as Energy Medicine, I have noticed that some students and teachers who have come to my classes and workshops tend to use a particular breathing technique known as ujjayi breathing during their practice. Translated as the “victorious” breath, ujjayi is intended to aid in yogic mastery, which ultimately is over the ego and our illusory perception of divisiveness. Some Hatha yoga styles such as Ashtanga and Vinyasa encourage the practice of ujjayi breathing…

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